Sunday, April 11, 2010

Potty Training

I made the decision that I would start potty training when Lulu started walking.  She started taking steps a few weeks ago at daycare but would never walk at home.  We finally caught her on video.  
So yes finally at 15 months, I have a walker.  Which means I have a pottier!!!  
I still think of Lulu as my little infant.  I have a hard time embracing that she is a toddler and yet she cracks me up EVERYDAY with her "big-girl ways".  So today we went to visit my sister who is recovering from surgery.  Although we know we should go more often :( we go at least once a week and always on Sunday.  While I am there if I have to change her diaper I change her on the guest bathroom floor.  Now let me say that Lulu is ALWAYS changed on her changing table at home.  We NEVER change anywhere else in the house.  It's just easier to do it where all the tools are.  So being changed on the floor is out of the norm.  

ANYWAY...we were chillin at my sister's house and she noticed Lulu was possibly pooping.  And a quick whiff of the room confirmed it.  So I tell Lulu to get me a diaper (jokingly) and she toddles over to the door near her diaper bag but then crawls off.  I say to my sister and Mom that if she gets her diaper she is getting potty trained TODAY.   Well she doesn't but guess what she does do...  She crawled down the hall and went into the bathroom.  AND LAID ON THE FLOOR.   I was completely dumbfounded!!!!  SHE IS READY!!!!! Listen if a kid can get a diaper, or go to the place where they are normally changed then they are ready to start potty training.  

See what happens in Black culture is you are PRESSURED into potty training.  Everyone's parents tell you that YOU were potty trained at like 11 months lol.  Clearly if you investigate the story you will find that you were probably 25 months old, but they will have you believe that you were much younger.  So you have everyone ask you... "is she potty training".  and EVERYONE is a professional, they can do it in just 3 hours or something ridiculous.   I don't share those aspirations lol.   

So here are my rules

1.  I am doing the potty training.  Not the childcare provider, not grandma, not the lady down the street.  ME!
2.  I am potty training on the weekends only.  I will not try to force her to use the potty during the 1 hour we get after I am off work and before she goes to bed
3.  I am setting a personal time goal.  I am not saying what that is.  But she is 15 months now....
4.  I am not using pull ups.  Nope, that's retarded.  (imho).  We are using panties.   She will feel it and so will I lol.
5.  We are increasing our sign language skills to ease into our communication of the language of potty
6.  This is not a competition... and I am not looking for a shortcut.
7.  We are using the potty chair for the purpose of potty training only but will be using the standard size toilet after this
8.  I use cloth diapers primarily at home and will continue to use them for the period of potty training.

And without further ado.....

I present, Lulu's first time peeing on the toilet.




  1. How did you get a picture of yourself holding her on the potty? I must say that I HATE, HATE, HATE bending over like that to hold S on the potty. We have a little potty insert at home so she can climb up there and do her thing but when we're out in public and I have to do the hold and hover, I HATE it. It hurts my back!

    Good luck potty training! (I admit that I am glad I never had to do it!)

  2. Ahhhh, Miss lulu!

    Good Luck Sis because I tried the potty training thing with BSB the first week I was over the flu---she wasn't having it AT ALL!!!

    She locked that arse up so tight, holding in her "cocka" (Amharic for poop) for 14 days straight--I did say 14 days before I took her into ER and they gave her 2 tablespoons of mineral oil and then I had to give her 2 tablespoons full for 2 weeks after that.

    DAMNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNN! I know huh. The doctor told us to lay off trying to potty train her because she was having Freudian stages of development issues with her poop...WTF????

    So, we're content with diapers and allowing her to guide us in this potty thingy---I'm learning to take deep breaths and go with the flow (or pee-n-poop).

    Let Miss Lulu take her time---don't rush your baby!

  3. Cute pic!!! She looks so tiny on that potty!!! Adorable!

  4. Jabeena, I have heard about kids in the ER because of what you described, but thought it was an urban myth.

  5. Robbin, she is too cute and I know she's crazy smart crazy smart so if she's also behaved I think she'll get it. Lucy was potty trained early and easy BUT every other stinking thing has been a challenge! (and lucy walked at about 15 months too)

  6. Sounds like she wants to be a big girl so if she'll do it, go for it! You can't hurt in trying.

  7. She is one of the cutest kiddos. I enjoyed reading about your struggles being a single mom trying to adopt from Ethiopia. It gives me hope I may get through the process. :-) I hope you keep posting updates.

  8. Happy Mother's Day!!!


  9. I am glad even if you don't post that you keep this blog up. I have it saved so I can check the list of "single moms adopting" and read any updates. It helps keep my sanity during the wait to wait.

  10. you are shaming me into starting. good for you!