My mother wears locs
My brother wears Locs
So you ask yourself... what is the point?
Well we all Loc'd our hair after we were GROWN! I am truly appalled at the trend of adoptive parents -- transracial adoptions -- (White parents, Black Children)-- locing their children hair. Apparently the parents think that this is either a.) desirable by the child or b.) easier to deal with. IT'S NOT!!!!
Locs are first and foremost a choice. You will not find ONE Black parent that will loc their children's hair unless the child is old enough to request it or unless the parents have locs of their own. Locs are a serious and intimate decision. Some wear it for fashion. But either way, all loc wearers know it should not be entered without much thought, understanding and commitment.
It is amazing to me how many hours are spent posting about hair care for "Black" hair. But I understand that the best way to counteract the unknown is to study up. But to loc a child's hair. A child???? Are you serious?
Little Black girls love to swing their pigtails as equally as their white counterparts. Getting your hair pressed for Easter Sunday is a rites of passage of sorts. Hair envy is common, even on small girls. Little Black girls were not very happy to have their hair braided up because although it saved you from the torture of getting your hair "did", it ultimately took away the free feeling of having your hair down.
My heart is sad. I know it might seem so petty but I promise you, it is a growing and pretty irreversible trend. To see so many PAP's make this decision, discuss it and pass pictures on forums, just makes me wonder.... just how much adoptive parents really understand about the challenges faced in transracial adoptions. Yes I know that seems harsh but so is being insensitive to what it means to be Black in America.
I believe in adoption. I believe a child deserves to be in a loving caring home. I also believe that adoption requires an "eyes wide open" approach. The level of understanding is not decided merely by "following your heart" and "saving an orphan". It is not based on cost nor wait times. It's not merely something that can be reversed by disruption or institutionalization. Its not to be done to prove a point...... It is the ultimate gift of life.
I wish I could reach out to the AP's doing this, but I have tried and met great opposition. I found with adoption, people rarely want to hear the truth, or even your opinion. They want to believe what they want to believe. Period.
I am too pissed to say what I want to say. This is a politically correct blog :)